My Journey


Experience & Emotion Guided Me Here

I am a sensitive soul, it’s true. I feel things… a lot.

I used to try and train myself to be tougher and less emotional, as I believed I would never be able to succeed and thrive if I didn’t. But let me tell you, the joke was on me.

In fact, my emotional capacity and my ability to feel empathy and compassion is the reason why I can create intentional and purposeful connection with so many different people.

I truly believe that this is one of my greatest strengths and it contributes significantly to my role and purpose in life. I’ve never doubted this path, I know in my core that happiness and freedom, for me, comes hand in hand with giving back and supporting others.

After almost a decade professionally supporting people in our community, I have learnt many things.

I’ve discovered what it takes to be a supporter of others and a supporter of myself.

I’ve learned that we have a responsibility to first take care of ourselves before giving back to others.

I’ve learned that if we skip the last point, we end up resenting our role, we burn out, we experience compassion fatigue and we withdraw.

I’ve experienced all of these points and I’ll be sharing more with you on these topics on my blog and on my social media channels if you’d like to learn more.

Everything I’ve experienced and every emotion I’ve ever felt has led me here.

Over the years, I’ve figured out (with the help of some incredible people) how to move through life with understanding and acceptance.

I’ve transformed my ‘me vs. the universe/god/spirit’ (whatever you believe in), to we.

I no longer fight back when something shows up in my world that strikes an uncomfortable feeling within me. I surrender and I open myself up to learn and grow. And I remind myself that the feeling, is simply a feeling, not the story I attach to it.

I’ve cultivated a mindset that promotes awareness, reflection, healing, forgiveness and love.

This mindset helped me design my personal life compass. This compass helps me navigate my life and helps me remain accountable for how I am showing up and connecting in this world.

These two things have undoubtedly saved my life.

This is my experience so far, 28 years of learning, discovering, feeling and creating.

Stay open, be kind and always remember – you are a miracle.

Sarah Asher white top

“The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and the most beautiful of all.”

WALT DISNEY

Then

I used to wake up with snowballing worries every single day.

The avalanche of fear, sabotage and self-doubt commanded me to believe my life was an infinite space of emptiness.

I believed these thoughts defined me as weak and hopeless. I was convinced that this was permanent and absolute.

When anxiety was in full motion, I had no control.

I was utterly powerless and physically frozen.

Emotionally, I was hardwired for relentless nervousness and frazzled with endless questions.

I was viciously crippled with paranoia.

I could not escape the noise and the chaos inside my head.

When depression crept in, my world was silent and slow. Depression led me to lose all remnants of logic and my ability to gain perspective vanished. Hopelessness consumed me and the life force was drained from me.

The constant cyclone of anxiety and depression became overwhelming.

The thought of suicide became a regular visitor.

There were so many reasons supporting me to end my life; no more pain, stillness, no more worries, freedom for my family (the burden -me- will be gone).

The Change

One of my biggest realisations to date:

The isolated, cold, miserable, hate-driven space does not have to be permanent. You can shift your emotional compass. You can create greatness in your own right. I have and so can you.

The realisation that the puppet show (my life of masking emotion) needed to end terrified me because I knew I would have to step into the unknown. I would be leaving my ‘safe zone’, which oddly enough had become home to anxiety and depression. It may sound strange to some, but I had a somewhat like ‘bond’ to my mental illness.

However, the fear of making a change was balanced with the fear of not making a change.

With the support of my community, I decided to speak. This was a challenge in itself. The first time I shared, I barely spoke 3 words. Each time, I shared a little more, then a little more.

Conversations were created. I felt emotion. I asked for more help. I received it. I yelled. I cried. I asked for support again. I received it. I yelled some more. Tears still flowed. I screamed. The tension was released. The pain was expressed.

Forgiveness and acceptance were explored and practised (gently), again and again, and again.

Kindness and love overcame hate and fear.

I began to heal. I began to realise that life can be an opportunity for creation and growth.

With the help of some wonderful supporters, I have learned how to live peacefully and kindly.

Now

There are days that flow a little lighter and easier than others. I constantly remind myself that healing did not happen instantly. I didn’t suddenly wake up one morning with no worries or fears. It was and still is a process and a practice. I am still learning how to care for myself every day. Healing and the process of becoming are truly everlasting.

Instead of resisting emotion and being closed to the world,

I welcome challenges,

I am open to feeling uncomfortable, expressing the emotion and experiencing balance and harmony,

I remind myself that I have unique qualities to help, serve, and support others,

I appreciate and accept all the experiences that have been present in my life – even the really painful ones, I have forgiven myself and those who have hurt me, and I practice forgiveness when it is requested,

I love unconditionally,

I remind myself every single day that it is an absolute privilege to be alive, healthy and loved, and

I remember that I am a miracle and so are YOU!

Thank you for sharing your time with me, I am so honoured that you’re connecting.

Onwards and upwards, always

Sarah Asher in a field

Together let’s create your life compass. One that champions courage, nurtures connection and embraces growth.

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I have a Bachelor Degree in Social Sciences, Diploma of Counselling and Graduate Certificate in Health Coaching.

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